Counselling Twickenham, Whitton I work with:
counselling for depression
counselling for anxiety
survivors of rape
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Welcome to EnduringMind. I offer Counselling in Hounslow areas also.
Counselling is a talking therapy which is there to support people while they give voice to their fears, anxieties and hopes for the future. Talking therapies include individual counselling and couples counselling. Individual counselling focuses on one client. It enables each person to talk through their issues with a caring but uninvolved professional, where other sources of support, such as family or friends are too close to the issue and may be part of the problem. As such, clients may find it helpful to talk to an experienced counsellor in a confidential setting – without fear of being judged.
I find myself following a very human approach to counselling in which I aim to support my clients with empathy, a sense of genuineness and a non-judgemental attitude (C. Rogers, 1968). Individual counselling focusses on facilitating a greater awareness of the Self. That is not to say that counselling replaces family and friends, but seeks to help the client heal relationships from a balanced, more neutral perspective. It also involves a certain degree of challenge in face-to-face contact. This is a necessary part of the process. At Counselling In Hounslow, the counsellor will provide an opportunity for:
exploring your feelings
making sense of what is happening
promoting a sense of self-awareness
looking at the wider perspective and other options available
helping clients choose the most appropriate course of action
The objective of counselling is to enable clients to find their own solutions – it's not about offering advice or ready-made solutions. It is about building a relationship of mutual respect and partnership, which means that the person can build their own autonomy. As a counsellor at Enduring Mind (Counselling in Hounslow area) I believe in taking care of your mind and wellbeing is essential. Our survival depends on it. In the modern world we receive medical treatment for diseases, physical ailments and injured limbs. We can even replace damaged organs with reconstructive surgery. However, with the exception of neuroscientists and psychotherapists the mind remains a mystery.
Events of the mind are invisible to the naked eye and science through the normal methods of observation. However, according to recent advances in neuroscience the brain is a constantly evolving organ. The human mind is a beautiful thing: able to bring us moments of great joy and inspiration. But it's also fragile – subject to emotional crisis and distress. Sometimes it simply doesn’t function, creating unhappiness and pain. Embedded in the deep structures of our neural network, the functions of the mind go unnoticed. We are only aware of it, because we experience the world through sensory perceptions, storing memories and making sense of our lives. It's a region of profound mystery where we feel intense emotions, understand language and generate ideas. Yet how well do we look after it? This is where I can help:
What Qualities Should You Look For in Your Relationship with a Counsellor?
A sound working relationship based on mutual respect A feeling of trust, safety and rapport
A sense of being understood and accepted by the counsellor A willingness to collaborate and negotiate
Empathy and compassion from the counsellor A sense that you are making progress
A sense that you can work together with this counsellor The counsellor seems grounded and robust
The counsellor belongs to a professional body A well-qualified counsellor Master's Degree
At EnduringMind I offer Counselling Hounslow areas. I enable my clients gain a better understanding of their difficulties and distress, by exploring their underlying motives and helping them choose appropriate ways to cope or bring about real change to their thoughts and behaviours. It involves exploring recent experiences; repetitive patterns of behaviour and childhood attachments. The counselling process must have continuity and be delivered by a professional who is trained to help you in a safe way. Depending on your concerns, counselling may be a brief or long-term commitment. The work we do together will be at both conscious and unconscious levels of experience. Sessions can be provided for individuals, and groups who may share similar issues.
At counselling in Hounslow (counselling Twickenham) every counselling session is unique because I know every client and their challenges are unique. As a highly skilled counsellor I will enable you to explore your feelings and experiences in a structured way. I can also offer mindfulness techniques as part of the work we do - e.g. using your imagination, experiential techniques, dream interpretation or body movement work. It is not a magical cure, it is a well-researched and scientific process designed to help you become the person you want to be. It has been an established clinical science since Freud over 100 years ago. I also provide Counselling In Hounslow areas. I am a qualified psychotherapist (Master Degree, UKCP) and counsellor. You may want to know what the difference is between counselling and psychotherapy. Counselling and psychotherapy can be used to mean different things. There is a consensus that a psychotherapist, unlike a counsellor is qualified to work with a broader range of issues in more in-depth. The difference is due to the depth and time of the training, as well as the quality of the therapeutic relationship. As an accredited psychotherapist with the UKCP, I have trained to Masters Degree Level. I practice a form of Integrative Psychotherapy, which has its roots in humanism and uses al range of psychological influences (P. Clarkson, 2003). However, in my own practice I focus on:
the here-and-now (immediate issues)
relationships and attachment
At EnduringMind I use a relational form of therapy to explore a person's emotions, thoughts, behaviours and spiritual dimensions. Both client and I are actively engaged in shaping this processes as well as the outcomes of therapy. This approach stresses the importance of the individual's capacity for self-development. I work with you, the client, to realise these potentials. I also take into consideration the impact of relationships on the internal world of the client to explore the significance of social, cultural, religious aspects of experience.
At EnduringMind (Counselling in Hounslow area), I try to offer a range of approaches to couples counselling and individual counselling. This better suits clients, because as human beings we are all unique individuals with our own personalities, emotions, feelings thoughts and beliefs. As a counsellor, I try to find a way that uses and adapts the client's frame of mind to the counselling work we do together.
Here-and-now Issues – some clients are convinced counsellors will only probe them about painful experiences from their past or only look at childhood for the answers to their current problems. This is not true. It is important that the counselling process attends to and focuses on the present issues a client brings to counselling, working in the here-and-now. The counsellor will help the client to explore what triggers patterns of behaviour and negative emotions that can lead to inappropriate ways of ‘acting out’ on those impulses. The counsellor will help the client gain insight, make better choices and come to decisions that feel more constructive.
Attachment & Psychodynamic Counselling – exploring the past, especially your childhood and family relationships, is a necessary part of the process of understanding who you are and where you come from. It is not about blaming parents or looking for excuses for the way you behave or think. Just like the baby goose that is pre-programmed to imprint onto mother the moment it hatches from the egg; all human infants must bond with their parents so they can learn how to survive, how to love and form safe relationships. Human beings learn about being in relationships at different levels of consciousness. Conscious memories are one way of learning from our attachments with others. But most of the bonding process is learned in the first few months of life, at a preverbal or unconscious level and where this development is disrupted, it may continue into adult life often unnoticed until there is a personal crisis – e.g. bereavement, trauma or relationship breakdowns. Therapy attempts to uncover these disrupted patterns of relating by reworking them into a reparative experience that allows people to develop new relationships based on trust and understanding. As John Bowlby (1969) expressed the point of psychotherapy is to help the client relearn how to form close relationships and adapt to them, by acting as an attachment figure or a 'secure base' from which the client can explore the world without fear of abandonment or rejection.
Unconscious Processes – in counselling we explore unconscious processes in order to make sense of our fantasies, dreams, instincts and primitive emotions. The vast majority of what we learn about the world is not within our control or available to rational thought processes. Most of our psychological development happens outside of our awareness at an unconscious level (S. Freud, 1919). A bit like a computer which uses programmes and software for the immediate tasks it has to perform; whilst every other part of the process is performed behind the scenes e.g. using the processor, RAM, memory etc. Often unconscious material is associated with intense emotions and conflicts which haven’t been fully processed. They are stored in the subconscious and accessed, through primal emotions such as the ‘fight or flight response’ when we feel compelled to act on instinct. This is because primal emotions like anger and fear are triggered at lightning speed in the limbic system of the brain; overriding our thinking faculties in the cerebral cortex. To some extent human beings need to process their perceptions instantly to avoid danger. Some have little impulse control, because they've not been conditioned with the appropriate responses to threat in their environment.
Conscious Processes – it is necessary to allow clients to make sense of the world in their conscious minds, allowing them to reflect and gain insight into their behaviour; to achieve better impulse control and more trusting relationships so they can feel secure about their place in the world. This leads to a sense of security and happiness. But for many human beings who experience trauma we are more likely to store memories as painful, sad, shaming or distressing. When we form relationships in later life the negative energy of these distressing memories are transferred onto present relationships without realising this is what we are doing. For some people this process of ‘transference’ may happen repeatedly in new relationships, until they eventually become aware of what they are doing and why, so that they can learn to change their behaviour. Therapy helps clients to do this.
Creativity, Dreams & Imagination – the counsellor will often help the client to access more creative regions in the brain so that clients develop alternative ways of understanding themselves and accessing the interior life of their mind. This can be through experimentation with meditation, mindfulness, using the natural environment as a resource; or expressing oneself through poetry, art and music. If you are already open to this way of exploring yourself this can be an enlightening and uplifting intervention in counselling; but equally, if you feel uncomfortable with creative expression it is not necessary to explore this in counselling. For example Carl Jung (1935) believed that dreams were the gateway to our unconscious desires and fears. By unlocking them, Jung believed we could gain insight into our unconscious conflicts and understand them saying: 'your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.' (1970)
Neurobiology – at the heart of the counselling process there is good scientific data to suggest that the therapeutic relationship is essential in helping clients to heal their emotional wounds and moving onto independent and fulfilling lives. Neuroscience suggests that in the developing mind of a child there are billions of neurons (brain cells) connected in neural networks throughout different regions of the brain; all transmitting messages and reworking those connections into an integrated circuit. The functions of the mind are processed by the brain, when specific regions and neural pathways are activated. As Steven Pinker (2003) demonstrates in his book How the Mind Works this develops a “map” in the brain through a pattern of neural ﬁring, creating our sensory experiences, thoughts and emotions. And this internal connectivity is achieved through the child’s interactions in relationships and the environment outside the brain. If an infant does not receive 'good enough' care or nurture from its parents, or adults experience trauma, the neural network can become disrupted. As D. Winnicott (1963) explains emotional deficits by the caregiver can be healed through a reparative experience with the counsellor who offers compassion and empathy during therapy. The relationship in therapy, along with encouragement and support allows the client to rework this neural circuitry and restore better functioning of neural pathways. This also helps the emotional, linguistic, autobiographical and memory circuits to repair themselves. I often offer suggestions for reading such as Daniel Eagleman's book The Brain as a good introduction to understanding how the brain works. Welcome to Counselling in Hounslow.
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